Poly Doesn’t Mean Fuck Fest or Threesomes

Every time I talk about my polyamorous relationship with my friends they always asks about threesomes. For some reason they relate me being in a triad relationship to meaning that I am always having a threesome. That’s not true. Not completely. Of course the sex is a major bonus but it’s so much more than just threesomes and sex. Poly doesn’t mean fuck-fest and threesomes.

‘Mono’ Style

Not to mention we have one-on-one sex too. I have even read about some polyamorous couples that only have sex with one partner while still openly dating others. People can have polyamorous relationships where they connect with more than one person on an emotional level and have one sexual partner. There’s no rule book or Poly laws to follow. Not that I have seen at least. Like I said, poly doesn’t mean fuck fest and triad doesn’t stand for threesomes.

Well it could but I’m talking about my triad relationship. Even when it is the three of us in bed it’s an equally balanced intense desire that is shared. A connection that I have only had with them. My two favorite people. To call that a threesome would seem like I am chalking it up to a kink or a hookup.

You Mentioned Threesomes

Now that I am thinking about threesomes though… I do have to say that I never realized how enjoyable it would be to see my boyfriend having sex with my girlfriend. Maybe it’s how she looks directly into my eyes while he bends her over on top of me. I usually don’t like eye contact during sex but even the thought of her looking into my eyes like that turns me on. Makes me want to make that drive up there just to spend time with her. Maybe it’s the combination of eye contact with her and the way that Brian and I intertwine our fingers as we grip her hips in the same place.

Yin to My Yang

I’ve never experienced the feeling of compersion until meeting them. It’s nice. I admire how they love each other. To share this intense desire for one another and to be able to love them equally. To be able to talk to Brian about all of the things Liz does that we both love. Cussing has never been so fucking cute until I met her. She is the yin to my yang…cheesy as fuck but true. We are exactly alike in so many ways but opposite in some ways too. She tends to be sweeter than me and completely adorable in the sexiest way possible. Both of us are extremely shy and quiet at first but sex crazed for each other.

Liz is the woman I have been saying for years that I would end up with. Her hair color, her sense of humor, us being the same height, her personality and sex drive. She is everything I have ever said I wanted and would never let go of if I found it in a woman. It’s like I wrote it all down and all the words and pages came to life. She is more than I imagined though. She’s inspiring, compassionate, intelligent, funny, beautiful and sexy as fuck!!! The more I type about her the more I want to drive up there to see her. Now I am just thinking about humping Liz. I can’t remember the point I was going for when I started this post. Something about it not only being about threesomes and now I’m thinking about sex with my girlfriend.


I remember my first sexual experience. My first O. It was with a girl and O.M.G. I was hooked from there. It started with an innocent game of I’ll show you mine if you show me your’s. But why look and not touch? So of course we did, just a little tickle. Then we thought hey, we should see what they feel like against each other. Ever since then it has been by far my favorite thing to do. Clothes on and all. It is the most innocent kind of sexual act to happen with me and Liz. She called it ‘getting all high school’ when it happened with us last weekend. Even with our clothes on it’s still a one of a kind orgasm for me. My favorite. One that is ten times better when it involves my body against her’s.

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